As for all real value being in yourself; I couldn’t agree more! I also find that the more value you continue putting in, the less you worry about not making it, or not being good enough, when life throws something your way.

I do want to add though

“I think they mean well, and really just want me to have a safe and secure job,”

Most people do mean well, but the underlying theme these people are missing is that there is no such thing as a “safe and secure job”- anymore.

One of the topics I wanted to touch on in this post but didn’t is how the real value- including financially- is in yourself. Relying on the government, or large corporations for security is a joke at this point…

Speaking of which, have you read any of Seth Godin’s work? Specifically, Purple Cow?

-Anthony

Whenever I attend a family gathering of sorts, I get the question, “so what job are you working right now?” or “what course are you studying for?”

I really hate having to answer both of those questions, because it’s a difficult one to explain for those that aren’t in my position. As much as I’d love to tell them, “I’m a part time gambler, freelance artist, and working on publishing my own graphic novel” they just can’t seem to accept that reality.

They usually start listing off occupations they think I’d be better at; “police officer, auto mechanic, truck driver.” I think they mean well, and really just want me to have a safe and secure job, but it’d be nice if they just let me handle my situation without the career advice. It’s starting to get annoying.

And yes, I do make money doing what I do, but they seem to think that’s just a phase and when it all comes to an end, I’ll be homeless begging in a corner.

What I’m doing is just a small fraction of the general direction I’m heading towards, and I’m just getting started.

“Be the change you want to see in the world”

Wonderful quote Dream. I think too many people go the traveled route, but the world needs people that come “alive.” I want to work for myself, and when you get a taste of how that feels, it’s hard to go back.

A bit long, but yes I agree with most of it. Thanks for writing it up as I feel it added to the post.

-Anthony

thanks

-Anthony

These are my thoughts on the, “What are you doing with your life, step back into reality maaaaaan”, subject (because I get them too).

(If any of this sounds arrogant, or that I’m voicing FACTS, It’s just my tone of words, these are parts of a theory deduced by means of what I’ve observed in society and people usually misconstrue HOW I say things and then get angry. I just don’t want to have to think about my phrasing, on with the show.)

People who trust their own judgment are secure with their choices. People who don’t trust their own judgment either lie to themselves about it, so they can go through with their decisions, or they ask for other people’s thoughts on the subject. Which is to validate what they chose or to absolve them of responsibility in the matter.

Now, whenever someone makes an opinion, or thinks something about anything, they use the information they have and their best judgment to form it (when they think about it for more than a second).

You only have the opinions you have because it’s the best you could come up with and when someone says something contrary, calling them out is a sort of defense mechanism (in average people) to stop the contrary from destroying the lie they put in place to make them secure about their choices. They just want to discredit you in their eyes so that they can go on trusting their friend’s advice because he’s a chiropractor and is ‘in the know’. A sort of “WHO ARE YOU TO SAY THIS SHIT!!@!” type of reaction, but more devious and self shielding.

If you bring up your arbitrary qualifications and they look up to you, then they’ll want to leech information of of you, not have an intelligent discussion because everything you say, to them, is higher and better than them. you become an Idol, and that’s no fun.

In people more like us, you ask ‘why?’ when people are contrary, with genuine curiosity because you want to see if they have better information than you, which would let you make a more informed opinion/decision/thought.

So when someone asks you what you’re going to do with your life, they don’t think of it with infinite possibility like you do now, they’re thinking, “Why can this guy organize events, I’m an accountant and I made this choice because it was the best one! This guy must be crazy, he’s out of my comfort zone AND HE’S GOING TO DESTROY MY IDEALS! QUICK, CALL HIM A MORON AND TELL HIM HE HAS NO CREDENTIALS!”

Come to think of it, there’s probably a term for everything I just said……..Projecting? I’ve heard that used, but I haven’t looked into it.

They project their values and ideals onto other people because they think that people should think how they do and if people don’t do so it means that they haven’t made the best choices, which means that they’re INCAPABLE of doing better and that’s a depressing thought. Hence all the lying to themselves (No, I don’t think you’re fat!). The lie is good for the people who need comfort while they solve the underlying problem and eliminate the insecurity but the problem lies in people who have the potential to solve the problems but the lie is comfort enough so they dont actually do anything, people on the line I guess.

Sorry that I voiced my long theory in your blog but I’m hoping you’ll generally agree with what I said and get a sense of comradery(not a word apparently) or something cool like that.

lookin forward to a cleaner blog, thanks!

-Anthony

Thanks for the post!

Also, I think we’d better fix that logo soon now. Throw me an email and we’ll fix it

Peace,
Jonas