I received the following comment the other day (link).

Anthony I usually do not comment, as well, I am on my iPhone. But this struck such a chord with me that I had to express my appreciation.

I often think that I will not be able to fully appreciate my father until he dies because I am so stuck in my ways, and he in his, that to expect that our relationship could evolve is too hopeful and will simply leave me more heartbroken once he passes.

Watching you on video I can tell we are both introverted individuals and if you’re like me I’m guessing you haven’t always found it easy to express deep feelings (I am terrible at this but I need to get better ASAP). So I ask you as someone who I relate to: if you knew what you knew today, how would your relationship with curtis look different were you to have the opportunity to talk to him now?

Were there things you never said to…

This is in a way a follow up to Love – No Contradictions Possible. In fact I may just make a series out of this and shred contradictions to pieces in a variety of fields.

The premise we are told to accept in dating is this: the women you admire cannot be the women you desire. In application, this means any woman who would sleep with you right off the bat is not a woman worthy of a relationship of any real significance – her actions and choices remove her from such possibility.

Even if you would not have had your initial interaction with her go any other way – which reveals the contradiction. You got what you (both) wanted, and because you succeeded in your efforts, future success is no longer possible.

Or, in another sense: because you BOTH won, now, you both lose.

WTF?

Guys who proclaim this shit (not knowing the real meaning of their proclamations) are the same guys getting frustrated with “LMR”, or girls suddenly…

“A men’s conference would focus much less on women and much more on how to be a man.”

I’ve already discussed this quote here, which came from The Spearhead, but would like to briefly expand on it thanks to Rob Judge. Rob says,

Genuinely loving women isn’t something you “do;” it’s something you ARE

In regards to quote number one, Rob hits the nail on the head, so hard, that he reveals the false choice presented in the original quote — that focusing on women is somehow opposed to or exclusive of “how to be a man” — a completely undefined phrase 99.999999% of the time that is just “supposed to” have some sort of meaning without any effort or thought given to the matter.

Like the word “good”. What is “good”? Ever thought about that? What about “evil”?

Anyway, in the (paraphrased) words of Nathaniel Branden, viewing women as the greatest of nature’s creations is central to life on earth as a man. It is central to being male.

The same is true in reverse: viewing…