Common Sense is Uncommon

There’s an interesting discussion going on under this post. To extract two quotes from Matt (who is a multi-year 21 Convention attendee, and someone I wish I would have spoken more with in person this past year in Orlando),

It was interesting to me that you found this speech so transformational. As someone who as always viewed the core of pickup as communication, and the purpose of that communication as intimate connection, this speech was both superfluous and a bit simplistic.

I was merely commenting here that it was interesting to me that there’s people like Anthony out there who find this information life changing.

There are a number of things going on here that interrelate.

For one, knowing both Matt and Sock to approximately equal degrees, I can say definitively that they do not share a similar sense of life — which is to say, they do not face existence in the same way to any significant degree. Certain fundamentals are there I would assume, evidenced by both being attracted to The 21 Convention for their own reasons, but even so, they are very different individuals.

It is for this reason that I believe Matt looks at Sock’s presentation and is a bit puzzled as to why anyone would be absolutely blown away by it. Indeed, Sock did not invent the wheel in his speech. There is nothing earth-shattering revealed in the speech in and of itself, unless you happened to be missing those specific pieces of knowledge or ways in which to apply that which you already knew.

Even so, that would only be a temporary “kaboom”, and even the most critical of those individual bits of knowledge would not hold a candle to …  the sum total of the speech and the speaker who gave it, should you happen to face existence in a similar fashion to him.

This would include me, much of the staff, and most of the attendees from what I was able to observe.

And it is this shared sense of life with a speaker — or author, or artist, etc — that grants the ability to gain enough altitude to view their content with sufficient sight to grasp the entirety of what they are saying and the essence of who they are as individuals.

It is for this reason that an individual can draw a complete picture from a novel and allow it to be a moving experience — or merely view it as a linear sequence of events, and probably be bored to death by it in the process.

I for example can crack open any page in The Fountainhead or Atlas Shrugged and it can be perfectly intelligible to me — no differently than it would be if I were to re-read the book from beginning to that specific point in the novel.

I can do this with 100% consistency because the universe Ayn Rand created in those novels makes complete sense to me, so much so that it is one world to me and skipping around either of the books is no more confusing to me than driving to the grocery store or travelling on a plane to a distant country.

There’s nothing confusing about it, it’s just travelling in a world I understand as clearly as the one physically in front of me.

In a less complex manner, this is the same phenomenon many of you will experience watching Sock’s speech, and some of you won’t. You will grasp the speech fully and completely — which is to say, bring it into full conscious focus — and have it change your life to the degree possible and extent you allow it, or you will only see it as a series of ideas presented in ABCDEF fashion, and wonder why others are profoundly inspired by it.

The reason is that one individual is seeing (and will always see in this speech) 25 years of raw, hard, life experience in the arena of intimate/romantic relationships masterfully concretized into a 92 minute video, and the other is seeing something as obvious as paleolithic based nutrition explained to a general audience in a 5 step seemingly elementary fashion.

Which begs the question — is paleo nutrition common sense?

My answer: only on hindsight.

Which begs the statement that all learning is a process of automatizing knowledge.

— Anthony Dream Johnson

About Anthony Dream Johnson

CEO, founder, and architect of The 21 Convention, Anthony Dream Johnson is the leading force behind the world's first and only "panorama event for life on earth". He has been featured on WGN Chicago, and in the NY Times #1 best seller The Four Hour Work Week.    His stated purpose for the work he does is "the actualization of the ideal man", a purpose that has led him to found and host The 21 Convention across 3 continents and for 6 years in a row. Anthony blogs vigorously at and

5 Responses to Common Sense is Uncommon

  1. Matt October 20, 2011 at 4:54 pm #

    Interesting… I think it was in fact, because I did share a similar sense of life to Sock, that I didn’t find his speech earth shattering.

    Otherwise, I would probably have experienced the type of paradigm shifts you’re talking about.

    Instead, I recognized both a similar world view and a imparting of similar skills to which I myself already possessed.

    I’d be interested in what you see as different in our sense of life.

    • Anthony Dream Johnson October 21, 2011 at 1:59 pm #

      Hey Matt

      When I say “sense of life” I am speaking of the widest abstraction possible for a person, encompassing any and every aspect about them imaginable. Meaning it is not so much specific and heavy differences between you two, it is the subtle differences apparent in every expression of who you are, even if only barely noticeable.

      A great external example would be the way one person knocks on a door, compared to how another knocks on a door. The speed at which one person speaks and thinks, versus the speed at which another person speaks and thinks. How contemplative and cautious one individual typically is, compared to how immediate and fast paced in their decisions another is on a general basis.

      In this view, world view is not an appropriate synonym to use, even if it is an approximate synonym in other contexts, and i was wrong to use it if I did.

      Going further, while I have no doubt you and Sock shares similar interests and values, the total sum of my concepts for each of you does not reflect a similar facing of existence. IE, I strongly suspect you do not wake up and go to sleep every day thinking the things Sock does, nor in the way he is thinking them, and vice versa.

      • Matt October 21, 2011 at 5:53 pm #

        Understood. However, there are several things here which make me doubt that you grasp my sense of life to any significant degree. To put this in perspective, imagine someone viewed you as an unthinking automaton who accepts what he is told blindly… would you accept that person’s view of how you approach the world to any significant degree?

        To further put the context of this post in perspective, imagine you attended a talk called “7 tips to living an objectivist lifestyle”, in which a 10 year objectivist gave some tips on how to live like an objectivist… while simultaneously imparting how they live their life, their belief system, and their approach to interacting with the world.

        You would probably not get much from this speech because:

        1.You already approach life to this way and see the world in similar fashion, so there wouldn’t be any paradigm shifting moment.
        2. The 7 tips would be too simplistic coming from where you were, and more than likely a step backwards.

        IE, your inability to get much from the speech would not be due to “not getting it” or not sharing a sense of life with the speaker… it would be precisely because you already did get it.

        You fail to connect the dots here because you severely underestimate who I am, what I’m capable of, and what my sense of life actually is… IE, I think you would be very surprised to see what my first thoughts actually are upon waking.


        • Anthony Dream Johnson October 21, 2011 at 6:04 pm #

          This requires a deeper answer than I have time to provide at the moment, but I want to make it absolutey clear that this post was in NO WAY shape or form meant to be a knock on you to any degree.


          I consider DJ Fuji a distant friend and, of sorts, a valuable business partner. We share a lot of values, interests, perspectives, goals, and so on. I consider him an outstanding speaker by his own right and in particular one of the best at the conference since he started in 2009.

          At no point have any of his speeches been even remotely moving to me, nor do I suspect they would have been at any point before we met per my own journey with women and self-development.

          His documentary interview came closest, but in reality, I believe that is because the entire thing was a deep conversation between us at a pivotal point in our lives.

          If you and I were to sit down for 2.5 hours and have a similar experience I suspect the outcome would be the same.

          Again, that said, none of this speeches have ever hit even close to home for me.

          Yet, his speech has been viewed upwards of 70,000 times and there are thousands of men all over the world who HAVE found his speeches, especially 2009, profoundly inspirational.

          Perhaps moreso than anything they have ever seen their entire lives.

          I guarantee you a lot of those people go back again and again to watch that video.

          Do you think any of them are re-watching it for the information presented, in and of itself? Is that even a factor they are considering when deciding to re-watch it?

          No, I do not think so. Do you?

          — Anthony

  2. o no u didnt October 21, 2011 at 7:48 pm #

    Ron Paul does aerobics

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