• Richard Nikoley blog
• Greg Swann blog

When I released my recent post “The Real Secret to Picking up Women“, a number of people commented on the gender specific assertion I was making: that men should never chase, and women should always do all of the chasing.

I didn’t elaborate further, nor is this something that anyone could expect to be widely understood. Heck, I’m not even sure Brenth Smith understands why women should chase. And I stress the word “should” there because I mean that in the best and highest, all encompassing, sweeping statement sense.

As in, women chasing men is a matter of psychological health, not arbitrary whim/chance, or even choice. [You have about as much choice in the matter as you do in breathing.]

So why is this?

• Why must women chase men?
• Why can it be no other way?
• Can men not “like” chasing?
• Can women not “hate” chasing?

It is because nature to be commanded is to be obeyed, and the fundamental nature, the essence of femininity, is to look up to man. To revere and admire him, in the flesh of an individual man, and in conceptual form.

While there is enormous room for admiration of women in masculinity, in flesh and concept, looking up to women is not central to being a man. It is not it’s essence. It is explicitly not it’s fundamental nature.

Perhaps not surprisingly, the essence of being a man is actually the ideal compliment to the essence of being a woman: and that fundamental nature, is purpose.

To walk a straight line through life and through existence. To not waiver, not bend, not stray, and to pursue his vision of what could exist and should exist in this world by his judgement.

Chasing a woman is antithetical to this process and to this essence. There is no point and no degree in which it is appropriate.

Let me be clear here: as a man, chasing a woman is the single most aggressively unattractive action you can take, short of physical harm.

There is nothing more unattractive you can do.

• Women do not like it.
• They typically do not understand why.
• They will tell you the opposite.

Make no mistake, they are either confused (consciously, subconsciously, or both), have an underdeveloped sexual identity, or have a damaged sexual psychology.

I.e. they have actively and knowingly rejected what it is to be a woman. (This would be most modern, third wave collectivists-feminists).

Reductionism

Many people who read this post will be angered by it and will quickly reduce normal, necessary male/female behavior to what their personal definition of chasing is — which at this stage, is largely not a consequence of their own independent thought, but is instead intellectual garbage they have been fed since birth by news, entertainment, and a morally bankrupt culture at large.

In short, “chasing” is a jumbled, undefinable mix of conflicting ideas, that is now being associated with normal, socially intelligent behavior. You may be doing this because you’ve chased women your entire life and are afraid to admit it.

Well, stop it.

A word that can mean anything means nothing. Chasing does not mean anything. It means very specific actions that run in direct opposition to being a man (or inversely, actions that are highly feminine). YOU need to determine what these actions and psychological positions are in your own life. Stop jumping to conclusions and vomiting out the same old re-hashed garbage the world has fed you.

• You do not have to chase.
• Men should not chase.
• Women should chase.

You make the choice, same as what foods you put into your body.

Bonus

Here’s a woman who understands these concepts quite well, contrary to what you may believe her novels depict (which in all cases, generally do not reflect daily life and instead depict heroic characters in unique circumstances).

Currently when you sign up for The 21 Convention Newsletter you get a free audio pack download — and that’s it. While that’s kinda cool, it’s very short sighted in scope, and not in any way unique.

Right now I’m interested in, instead of the above, creating a “Free 7 Video Course Bootcamp”, that sends the new e-mail subscriber a video every Sunday as part of a 7 week program. These would need to be the top 7 videos from The 21 Convention, that also properly introduce them to the convention, and the wide range of topics.

While I could easily pull the top videos in terms of views and select from there, I would like some input on the choices.

Currently thinking something like:

1. http://www.the21convention.com/2011/03/05/doug-mcguff-t21c-2010/
2. http://www.the21convention.com/2011/04/05/mark-sisson-t21c-2010/
3. http://www.the21convention.com/2011/02/18/anthony-dream-johnson-t21c-2010-sweden/
4. http://www.the21convention.com/2011/10/17/intimate-relationships/
5. http://www.the21convention.com/2009/09/08/dj-fuji-t21c-2009/
6. http://www.the21convention.com/2011/10/12/introduction-to-objectivism/
7. http://www.the21convention.com/2011/08/24/matthew-hussey-psychology-entrepreneurship/

Of course, even picking these 7 was hard, and that was just at a quick glance.

Never mind, deciding what sequence to put these in for the newsletter subscriber (e.g. what order will these best be viewed in for the lay person).

Suggestions welcome.

• What is Paleo FX?

Officially …

The PaleoFX Ancestral Momentum – Theory to Practice Symposium fosters collaboration among fitness professionals, healthcare professionals, nutritionists, research scientists and laypersons who approach their respective practices from an evolutionary perspective in order to successfully address modern health challenges through the application of ancestral based theory in practice.

• Video Production

If you’ve ever wondered what “21 Convention style” video production would look like on a paleo event, this is it.

The owners chose to use the same team as I have used with The 21 Convention over the years, and the result was A+ video production for a two day “triple conference”.

• Why You Need the DVDs

Bottom line: tons of ultra high quality content at a great price.

The conference was on a Thursday/Friday, however Paleo FX was not a single event — it was three, and sometimes four all at once.

The quantity of video they have as a result of this is truly staggering: approximately the same amount of video content produced in total from The 21 Convention 2011 London + Orlando.

Which took 8 straight days of filming (four per event) to complete.

• What’s on the DVDs?

From my understanding, a mixture of …

• Single person keynote presentations
• Topic focused Q and A panels (with the world’s top paleo minds)
• A few extra specials from various (and unique) components of the event

If it’s in your budget, you’d be a fool not to get these.

• Can I see an outline of what went down at the event?

Yep.

Click here to see the 2012 event schedule or here if that link no longer works for any reason.

• How do I buy the DVDs?

Click here to pre-order the DVDs. As long as you buy before June 1st you get a clean $50 discount — no extra effort on your part! You can also click the banner below.

 
Richard Nikoley with more info.

Jack’s pretty cool in person. Got to meet him in person at PaleoFX in March.

DVDs out real soon, along with a kick ass video trailer. Everything was filmed and produced by the same video team that’s done The 21 Convention for the past 5 years so you know it’s ultra high quality.

It might not be obvious at first glance, but a lot of improvements have been made to The Dream Lounge recently. One of these changes is how posts are delivered by e-mail. Previously Feedburner handled this for me, but I’ve since switched to MailChimp, because it’s way cooler, and it opens the door to building an actual e-mail list of TDLers, instead of just blog posts being sent by e-mail.

While I still don’t have much interest in directly e-mailing people who read this blog, I do recognize that I might someday, and having the ability to do so would be important, if and when I decide I want to for a specific reason.

Traveling to a new city, a private project, volunteers needed, etc.

Anyway, now you can subscribe to a real e-mail list.

For the foreseeable future, you will only be notified of new blog posts when they release, at a maximum of one e-mail daily. You can sign up by clicking here, entering your e-mail at the bottom of any post next to where it says “submit”, or you can click the orange “subscribe by e-mail” at the top right hand corner on every page of the blog.

And still functional, you can subscribe to the traditional RSS feed here.

Of course, be sure to follow me on Twitter as well, where I relentlessly spam Ron Paul videos and 21 Convention videos.

Stuff like the psychological significance of accepted meta-physical and epistemological basic premises in the context of a heterosexual mature romantic love relationship between two individuals of relatively high self-esteem and of approximately equivalent general psychological maturity.

That shit makes sense to about .00001% of the human population because it requires not only a wide range and depth of knowledge, but also the capacity to make coherent sense of multiple, consecutive layers of abstractions … from abstractions … from abstractions … and so forth.

That said, I do have some personal thoughts about pickup in the common sense of the term, which for my purposes here, deals externally and only with

Meet ——> Sex ——> Establishment of a Sexual Relationship

Those thoughts can be effectively summarized in the phrase

Don’t chase, ever.

For the majority of the male human population living in a civilized — read feminized — society, who are psychologically mature enough (meaning you’ve probably chased a bunch of women previously) to begin meeting and having sex with new women on a consistent basis, this will be the brightest light bulb to ever go off in your head, in this arena of life.

I really mean it: this it the straw that will break the camel’s back.

If you fundamentally grasp this principle and apply it, it is the single closest thing to a magic bullet in existence for “picking up” women in the 21st century. It is so effective it will make your ears bleed.

And I am telling it to you for free.

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What does this look like applied in real life?

It means you never, ever chase. Under no circumstances are you the pursuer. The woman is always chasing you. You do your best to setup the logistics of any given situation so she has the ability to chase, but regardless of how well that effort went, you DO NOT CHASE.

You never initiate calling, texting, Facebooking, e-mailing … any type of communication.

If you screwed up and she is not in a position to chase (like she doesn’t have your phone number), too bad, you screwed up, you walk away. Why?

Because the psychological experience of not chasing and instead experiencing a loss, as a consequence of poor logistical planning, is infinitely more important than that one girl you met and know next to nothing about.

This active behavior quickly creates a mental environment in which your default response to meeting a woman is to not chase. And when that process borders on automatic, you’ve got it … and, a bunch of  attractive women chasing you so strongly, you are left in fucking disbelief.

All that marketing hype about this or that being “lethally effective”, is child’s play compared to this.

Now for the kicker. Rather than have this one little blog post about the topic, there is an entire Youtube channel dedicated to it. Those are the videos sorted by most popular first. They are more than enough to instill this change.

Speaking from personal experience, they worked for me. In fact that one change — the resolve to absolutely and completely refrain from chasing — “worked” so well, that I’ve had a really hot and incredible girlfriend for the past 8 months. And of course, that wasn’t the only result.

It is just the most recent, literally speaking.

Youtube Channel

Q and A

Is it really that effective?

Yes. Not chasing is absurdly effective for creating new sexual relationships with new women. I am convinced it is the “missing link” for nearly every male in western culture who has been seeking to improve his quality of life in this manner (a greater number of sexual relationships with attractive women, physically and otherwise).

Is it ethical?

Absolutely.

Anyone telling you different — like I’m sure many women  will, especially if they read this blog — are telling you that because the concept is terrifying to them. It is terrifying because it shifts so many fundamentals of male/female relationships back to where they should be, that the very possibility of that happening in one swoop, was radically incomprehensible to them in the first place.

It takes a very intelligent and mature person to understand this. This is especially true for women; because the concept affects them internally more than it does men, the result being that it is more difficult to deal with and process in abstract terms.

Beyond that, yes it is absolutely moral to decide the course of your own life and live on no ones judgement but your own. If you want to, for the length of time you choose, have sex with lots of new women, GO DO IT.

The idea that the most healthy and effective way to accomplish this — for both parties — is immoral or unethical, is a moral crime in itself.

What if I’m a guy who likes chasing women?

You’re not.

This is not only the weakest excuse, it is also the dumbest. This is similar to saying that you like breathing under-water. You don’t because it’s extremely bad for your health. Anyone who obtains a coherent understanding of not chasing, and continues to chase, would border very closely on what I call “aggressively stupid”.

Sure you can bash your head in a wall. The real mental health problem — forgive the pun — arrives when you keep doing it, after you realize it’s bad behavior.

But there’s this one girl …

If this is coming to mind you are failing to realize that having lots of high quality women in your life has next to nothing to do with women, and has everything to do with you.

It is about you, not the woman. YOUR long-term, rational, non-cannibalistic happiness is first and foremost in this world, and not a single other person’s or group’s.

Most people don’t understand much, if anything, about art. It’s either a far removed finger-painting activity for children, or an alien idea suited for drugged up hippies.

Unless it’s music.

Music’s art, ‘everyone’ likes music … so everyone knows a little somethin about art.

Hardly.

Above all, and in it’s relation to man in how it affects him internally … art is fuel for man’s soul; and keep in mind, this statement is coming from someone who actively and absolutely rejects faith.

I bring this up — that art is fuel for man’s soul — because I suspect many readers of this blog are like me, and explicitly practice this in their personal lives, with or without knowing it and fully understanding it.

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If souls have a style, and if styles have a specific hunger, mine is almost exclusively, and ravenously, heroic.

In art and in life I don’t care for much else.

Do I enjoy comedy movies/performances? Yes. So much that my laughter universally “stands out”. So much that I’ve even seen it consistently, produce sharply negative emotional responses, from people who have committed some kind of treason in their lives.

And I’ve seen it lift up people who were uncertain of whether an adult human being could laugh so hard, so much, and so innocently.

But … I never think about comedic art, never seek it, and never chew on it after the fact. It simply doesn’t matter to me.

The same can be said for a wide variety of art. I enjoy it, but not even the best of it can leave a lasting impression on me.

Heroic art on the other hand, no matter it’s shape or form, is always on my radar. I’m always seeking it … always hunting it, and always chewing on it. It’s what literally keeps me going at times.

It’s fundamentally why I care to experience art in the first place. Everything else is a secondary consideration. A detail distantly related to a primary.

I suspect a lot of those reading are in this category. If you are, you are definitely in the minority, in spite of all the hero movies and such that have been produced over the past decade or so.

Even when popular, and if that heroic art has not been significantly sabotaged in some way, people are experiencing those things in entirely different ways, and likely enjoy them for completely different reasons (they are flashy/exciting/feed into my philosophical confusion/etc).

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If you are one of these people, who is obsessed with a particular kind of art that you “just can’t put your finger on”, I’d like to take this blog post to say that you shouldn’t feel ashamed or embarrassed about it.

In fact you should be quite proud of your hunger.

It’s definitely ”worth a damn”, and there is no reason on earth to shy away from it, or to give it up for another form of art that you just don’t give a shit about.

If it’s the best style for you … stand up and never damn its existence by apologizing for it.

These are blue balls packed with protein!

God that sounds gross, but they’re really good once you pop them in your mouth.

Okay enough fun speak, these are blueberry protein balls straight out of Mark Sisson’s Primal Blueprint Quick and Easy Meals.

(Disclaimer: I didn’t make them, the girlfriend did).

The twist is that I had her add a few tablespoons of the best Whey protein powder on earth, Upgraded Whey by the Bullet Proof Executives.

The recipe normally doesn’t call for any whey … so it was a pretty extreme addition. Never the less, they came out awesome, much like everything else my girlfriend makes out of Mark’s cook books.

Many people don’t seem to be grasping the post, as well as the fact of reality, that there is no such thing as paleo exercise. So I will simplify this even further.

Fundamentally, eating is not a choice. The same way “how would you like to die: a gun or a knife?”, is not a choice. The choice is already made for you. You are only picking the consequent details.

Exercise on the other hand, is 100% volitional. A real choice, that you are in full control of, from beginning to end, not just the details.

Unlike eating, you do not face death when you choose not to exercise.

You do not die from “exercise dehydration” or “running starvation”.

In fact, you live quite fine. Heck, you’re even guaranteed to never injure yourself through exercise, unlike these poor 4,328 souls who are convinced they are “exercising like their ancestors”.

Hopefully this detail spelled out helps more people understand that there is literally no such thing as “paleo exercise”. It does not and cannot exist, at least not I suppose, until another few hundred thousand years roll by.

Eating is not a choice. Exercise is. What you choose to do with this little “side note” of life is up to you.

Try not to go around paleorcising™ though, at least not until you get done drawing a square circle.