Living Congruently [Video]

To sacrifice everything for some thing you are fully committed to, is not a sacrifice, but an easy bargain. To take it to its full extent, it is to live congruently — congruent to your chosen hierarchy of values.

This is not easy. In fact, it is probably the most difficult thing one can do: what you actually want.

Funny how the world tells you to restrain yourself from the things you want, and to compromise, to give in, to surrender, to submit, to get along, to co-operate, to co-exist — to obey.

Obey government, obey school, obey your parents, obey your friends, obey your boss … obey “everyone”, but your self.

Yet your individual life is yours to live. This is never changing. You can die for someone or some thing, but you can’t live for them.

— Anthony Dream Johnson

About Anthony Dream Johnson

CEO, founder, and architect of The 21 Convention, Anthony Dream Johnson is the leading force behind the world's first and only "panorama event for life on earth". He has been featured on WGN Chicago, and in the NY Times #1 best seller The Four Hour Work Week.    His stated purpose for the work he does is "the actualization of the ideal man", a purpose that has led him to found and host The 21 Convention across 3 continents and for 6 years in a row. Anthony blogs vigorously at and

14 Responses to Living Congruently [Video]

  1. Jah July 1, 2011 at 2:03 am #

    “Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the law.”

    “Love is the Law, Love under Will”.

    I’m seeing much of the learning from A.Crowley here.
    Have you been introduced to him before, Anthony ?

    Finding your Will, and then following it as Law.

    I cannot state how Impressed I am to see people who actually manage to do this. Not only find out what they want in life, but also mustering up the Courage and the Willpower to actually go out and Do it.

    All kudos to you.

    You have a meaningful life,
    and I really believe what you are doing will help a lot of us to take the steps needed to create meaning in our own lives.

    Thank you.

  2. Raw Paleo Primal Vegan July 1, 2011 at 4:12 pm #

    “Obey government, obey school, obey your parents, obey your friends, obey your boss … obey “everyone”, but your self.”

    American culture is all about “the self”; self-fulfillment, self-aggrandizement, self-help, self, self, self, and more I, me, mine!

    Its not really something that needs to be pimped. American society is already drenched in selfishness.

    You’re preaching to the choir.

    • Anthony Dream Johnson July 1, 2011 at 6:02 pm #

      Ah if only.

      To put it in Roark’s words, the world is perishing in an orgy of self-sacrificing.

      There is a very big difference between rational self-interest and selfishness at the expense of others (which is altruism).

      • Raw Paleo Primal Vegan July 1, 2011 at 8:28 pm #

        I’d hardly call the current malaise we see in today’s “culture” as “altruism”, even a self-centered one.

        We have overdosed on “self-expression” as a virtue in and of itself, divorced of any content of expression. This was a long time in the making. It didn’t start in the 60s with free love, drugs, and rock n roll, like many say, it was a seed planted decades earlier.

        I don’t want to come off as an old fogey smashing the idealistic dreams of youth, even though that’s precisely what I might be (LOL), but the very language used “congruency” , “integrity”, reflects exactly what I’m getting at.

        Congruency and integrity have no “value” in and of themselves.

        The question is not “am I integrous?” but rather, “for what am I integrous?”

        The question is not “am I congruent” but rather “what am I congruent with?”

        For that there is no answer. Why? The New Thought Movement of the 1970s can tell you that. Its also the very reason why you use vague words like “congruency” and “integrity”.

        You don’t even realize WHY you use those words or why they are so popular because you are simply too young and were not around when the New Thought Movement was born. You and most of the guys at The 21 Convention would have been born in the 80s and 90s.
        Your language and thought processes are an invisible PRODUCT of the 70s. Invisible because its a part of you that you are unable to connect the dots to. Indeed it is like the air we all breath now, decades later.

        The New Thought Movement has its foundation in psycho-analysis.

        Psycho-analysis has its foundation in something else.

        We’re all special snowflakes. Self-expression is a virtue. Congruency and integrity divorced from any arbiter other than what an individual’s whims may be deem worthy of being congruent with in the moment, these are all symptoms of a “therapy culture”.

        I have heard the same words repeated again and again ad naseum at everything from a shrink’s couch to a 1970s student sit-ins back in the day to Herbal Life Pyramid Scheme brainstorming sessions, to a recent a LANDMARK FORUM, and everything in between that has to do with “consciousness raising”.

        These words work especially well in group settings, where a collective consciousness is at play. Get everyone in the group thinking that are individuals directing their own lives independently of one another. Get them thinking they are empowered and can do anything as long as they remain “true to their ideals” (whatever those ideals are doesn’t matter), and before long you will have the entire group yelling out in unison, “YES I CAN DO IT!”

        This sort of collective delusion over “individualism” and “self-expression” is a direct result of a therapy culture that has seeped its way into our very DNA to the point where nobody sees it.

        And of course it goes without questioning.

        • Anthony Dream Johnson July 2, 2011 at 10:13 am #

          Living congruent to your chosen values and living with full integrity are diametrically opposed to “whims of the moment” in every aspect conceivable. To your own detriment, you completely fail to grasp the gaping differences between hedonism and rational self-interest, or, selfishness.

          Please refrain from comparing The 21 Convention to pyramid schemes and intellectual suck holes like Landmark on this blog.

  3. Raw Paleo Primal Vegan July 2, 2011 at 5:21 pm #

    You’ve missed my point entirely. Again, because you are not aware of the cultural influences that are influencing you.

    • Anthony Dream Johnson July 2, 2011 at 7:33 pm #

      Do I really come across like a guy who is easily influenced?


      • john July 3, 2011 at 12:49 pm #

        Yes. You have very little intellectual curiosity to investigate the underlying science behind nutrition and exercise. You also subscribe to a political philosophy which you obviously haven’t looked at with any scrutiny. You are a contrarian for the sake of being one. You oppose the popular because it garners you attention which your massive undeserving ego seems to crave constantly. You trumpet the the values of creativity and production when your whole operation consists of leeching off of the ideas of others for monetary gain. You are the snake oil salesman of old that has found idiots as intellectually infantile as yourself to fall for the scam and fork over their parents money for your refuse.

        • Anthony Dream Johnson July 3, 2011 at 3:07 pm #

          A leech eh?

          Perhaps. Or perhaps I have laid the foundation for the ultimate platform for the remaining men left in this world of reason and integrity to spread their ideas to the furthest extent and highest quality possible.

          Far as I am concerned T21C is the greatest invention since rearden metal. The cost to view it is zero, the quality, incredible — and it’s private property, owned by me as the CEO of The 21 Convention LLC.

          Seems you sir, don’t have a god damn clue what you’re babbling about.

  4. Raw Paleo Primal Vegan July 3, 2011 at 8:50 pm #

    “Do I really come across like a guy who is easily influenced?”

    Frankly, yes.

    However my original comment was not about you specifically nor the 21 Convention. I’m sure the 21 Convention is full of relevant information, good people and great times.

    My original comment was more about language. The way words come into vogue in a culture, become commonplace, and get used by people who do not understand the underlying psychology of the words and the agendas from which they sprang.

  5. Jah July 5, 2011 at 9:51 am #

    We’re all influenced, the question remains whether or not you’re conscious to the fact.

    Go to Amazon, get a copy of Influence by Robert Cialdini, read up on major psychology studies like the Stanford Prison Experiment and Stanley Milgram’s experiment with Autorities.

    Of course we are influenced,
    But here’s a thing that some of us do;

    We hear a claim, such as the ones around HIT, Paleo, etc.
    Then we GO BACK and Question the Authorities, looking at the Data that is published, and guess what… If the evidence is not supporting the claims made, then the claims were wrong.

    Part of what Integrity is is being able to admit when you’ve jumped on a band-wagon too early, rather than check the evidence. (As an Example, look to Drew Baye’s recent post about SPARTA.)

    Integrity lies not in never making mistakes, but in being able to admit them, correct them and move on.

    • Anthony Dream Johnson July 5, 2011 at 10:28 am #

      Actually that has nothing to do with integrity. That’s called being an honest person and stepping up to correct past errors in knowledge. It appears the word integrity is subject to word inflation like every other word today and infrequent readers of this blog are fond of throwing it around without an exact meaning.

      • Raw Paleo Primal Vegan July 8, 2011 at 5:53 pm #

        That was part of my point. Words like integrity and congruency are vague. They were used in a vague way in the above video you posted. Before knowing if someone is integrous or congruent, we must first know what he is integrous TO and congruent WITH for his integrity/congruency to have any meaning or value to us.

  6. amused July 18, 2011 at 3:02 pm #

    lol sorry thats just all too funny. Just reading all these comments, each one trying to prove who is more intelligent, articulate, wise and philosophically correct than the next….

    its all ego fuelled pointless effort

    my advice, chill out guys. lifes supposed to be fun you know! enjoy it, its a gift. you don’t need to prove anything, as the baz lurman song says “the race is long, and in the end its only with yourself”

    so I say let people be people

    ps I’ve purposely buggered up the punctuation and capitalisation of this post, if that annoys you you have real troubles, and need a holiday with vodka!

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