Masculinity and Heroism are NOT defined by Sacrifice

Apparently a 20 year old young man died protecting his girlfriend.

Gee, how heroic, how manly, how selfless of him to do such a thing.

This kind of false glamorizing makes me want to fucking puke. Above all, because it attempts to box heroism and masculinity into this absurd notion that they rest primarily on how selfless one acts and how much one is willing to sacrifice.

Think about how low the morality of a culture has sunk to drool over his death.

If he had lived there would be little discussion of this incident.

And what if he had been carrying a concealed weapon and shot the asshole before a single person was hurt?

There would be no fuss. No discussion. And if the laws in the State where this took place did not protect the right of an individual to carry a concealed firearm on college campuses, he would potentially be facing a decade or more in prison, in spite of defending himself and saving lives.

He would be subject to getting anally raped in over crowded jail cells for the entire duration of his 20s, and few would give a shit otherwise.

This is how psychologically fucked our society is. Praise the fact that he died protecting his girlfriend. Ignore or damn the hero that survives unharmed. Call the man who refuses to sacrifice himself for his ~20 year old girlfriend of a few months a coward.

Base all heroism on how fast one is willing to risk his life for another. Base all masculinity on how much you are willing to sacrifice. Base romantic love on the ethics of an emergency that bears little relevance to daily life in a civilized society.

Damn the hero who achieves and who survives. Glamorize the men who die.

And now that you know what it takes to be a man and to be a hero, sacrifice for the state. It’s the next logical step. Don’t be a coward.



About Anthony Dream Johnson

CEO, founder, and architect of The 21 Convention, Anthony Dream Johnson is the leading force behind the world's first and only "panorama event for life on earth". He has been featured on WGN Chicago, and in the NY Times #1 best seller The Four Hour Work Week.    His stated purpose for the work he does is "the actualization of the ideal man", a purpose that has led him to found and host The 21 Convention across 3 continents and for 6 years in a row. Anthony blogs vigorously at and

7 Responses to Masculinity and Heroism are NOT defined by Sacrifice

  1. Theo February 16, 2012 at 9:33 am #

    In a strange way, I get what you are thinking. His reasons for what he did may have been a mix of brainwashing by society for some girl that may not have been worth it…still that doesn’t change the fact that he was a REAL MAN and he was NOT a coward. Bc when you are staring down the barrel of a gun that’s when all the BS fades and YOUR true character comes out.

    And you know DAMN well that Hank Rearden would have done the same for Dagny – maybe the reasons would have been different, but the action would have been the same!

    • Anthony Dream Johnson February 17, 2012 at 12:28 pm #

      See my comment in response to Matt.

      It’s pretty foolish to compare a titan of American industry to a college student not old enough to buy a drink. The same can be said for the girl and Dagny.

  2. Matt February 17, 2012 at 12:04 am #

    I would call this act supremely selfish… he was protecting that which he valued even above his own life.

    • Anthony Dream Johnson February 17, 2012 at 12:27 pm #

      That’s just it though Matt: I’m not giving him the benefit of the doubt. There’s nothing to indicate that his actions were a rational, coherent judgement. That life would not be worth living without his girlfriend … who he met, possibly only months prior. He was very young, and the relationship was probably equally young, and immature.

      Ayn Rand once said: the most evil act is not to kill someone, but to sell them suicide as a virtue.


  3. ben sima February 19, 2012 at 7:22 pm #

    I’d agree with matt, and I don’t think this guy should be condemned for what he did – it was more a matter of chance than anything. What’s worse is how people glamorize and idolize him. That, and now his girlfriend (i’m assuming they had a romantic and mature relationship) is left with the emotional scar…

    Martyrdom sucks.

  4. Max February 20, 2012 at 9:49 pm #

    I can see what you’re saying Anthony, but I’m a bit confused. Undoubtedly he committed a good deed, but are you commenting on what the word “hero” means?

    What would you do in a similar situation with your girlfriend (of 4 months I believe)? It wouldn’t be rational to say that you should sacrifice yourself and be called a hero, but would you? I think you would. What would be going through my mind would be “save her” not “well it’s only been 4 months, fuck it, my life is more valuable than hers” and hide behind her. Your responsibility of a man is to protect those you care about..who cares if you’re young?

    Why doesn’t he deserve any recognition? I think you’re just saying that it’s pathetic that people wouldn’t call him a hero if he survived, and to some degree I agree. But who gives a shit? Since when do you care about what other people think? What other people think of you doesn’t make you who you are you. He’s just a man who saved another’s life, and that action is indeed heroic, no?

    I can see your point if I’m understanding correctly, but it comes off as a rant and doesn’t offer any solution, so I don’t really see the point. Smart people know the media is biased and doesn’t let them affect them, but why did it affect you so badly? Just curious.

  5. frank February 23, 2012 at 3:48 pm #

    Max +1

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