Video of My Wedding

 
Haven’t blogged since pre-wedding, still re-adjusting to normal work days, wanted to make sure TDLers got to see my wedding video.

You can watch the first half on Youtube, and for the next 30 days you can see the full ceremony here. Marilee does not want her vows on Youtube indefinitely, but she was okay with publishing Greg’s portion permanently.

I agree with Greg that the institution of marriage is absolutely in the gutter, and as such, I believe keeping his officiation of our wedding online is vitally important, in the aim of helping marriage survive a deeply anti-romantic age.

Frankly, I’m not aware of anyone else in the world doing and publishing anything even remotely like this; but if you know of someone who is, please send them my way.

Due to Marilee’s wishes about her own vows, I will keep footage of mine offline as well, which I believe will help preserve the intimacy of both and therefore respect her desires. I will however post the text version I read from during the ceremony in the near future. I will do so specifically because there is enough explicit philosophy in my own vows to help educate any young person in the future seeking to write their own.

Hopefully not to copy-cat, but instead providing a framework to build from, and larger principles to follow in considering how to construct your own. For the most part, I didn’t find these on the internet prior to writing my own, and yet I think such a catalog should exist for young people seeking to marry without the permission of government or recognition of supernatural organizations.

About Anthony Dream Johnson

CEO, founder, and architect of The 21 Convention, Anthony Dream Johnson is the leading force behind the world's first and only "panorama event for life on earth". He has been featured on WGN Chicago, and in the NY Times #1 best seller The Four Hour Work Week.    His stated purpose for the work he does is "the actualization of the ideal man", a purpose that has led him to found and host The 21 Convention across 3 continents and for 6 years in a row. Anthony blogs vigorously at TheDreamLounge.net and Declarationism.com.

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8 Responses to Video of My Wedding

  1. goldernie February 22, 2014 at 4:23 am #

    Dream NOT wearing VIbrams!?

  2. Aum February 28, 2014 at 1:46 am #

    “Frankly, I’m not aware of anyone else in the world doing and publishing anything even remotely like this; but if you know of someone who is, please send them my way.”

    Doing anything like what, posting their wedding videos? There must be millions of them on youtube. I liked Greg’s speech, though he is wrong about English being the richest language. Its quite a limited one in fact. I’m happy to hear someone finally mentioning “storge” when talking about Greek words for love. In American culture all I ever hear emphasized is Agape, Philia and of course the post-modern West’s utmost favorite – Eros. (And just see how that’s worked out for them!) However he missed two other important ones; Pragma and Philautia.

    Pragma would have been especially pertinent at a wedding because it is “mature” love. This is the deep understanding that developes between long-married couples.
    Pragma is about making compromises to help the relationship work over time, and showing patience and tolerance.

    Philautia is an interesting one because it is love of the self.

    “The Greek’s sixth variety of love was philautia or self-love. And the clever Greeks realized there were two types. One was an unhealthy variety associated with narcissism, where you became self-obsessed and focused on personal fame and fortune. A healthier version enhanced your wider capacity to love.

    The idea was that if you like yourself and feel secure in yourself, you will have plenty of love to give others (as is reflected in the Buddhist-inspired concept of “self-compassion”). Or, as Aristotle put it, “All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man’s feelings for himself.”

    More here;
    http://www.yesmagazine.org/happiness/the-ancient-greeks-6-words-for-love-and-why-knowing-them-can-change-your-life

    One question: if you live in Florida why did you go all the way to Nevada to get married?

    • Anthony Dream Johnson February 28, 2014 at 11:20 am #

      When I said “doing and publishing” I was referring to the intersection of philosophy and technology present at the wedding.

      There must be millions? I don’t see a single one, and I spend every day on Youtube running one of the top 20k channels in the world. I am left to wonder if you actually *listened* to anything Greg or I said during the ceremony. You seem totally ignorant of the fact that Marilee, Greg, and I just reinvented how a young, rational couple can and ought to be married in the 21st century. Are you fucking stupid? Do you have any idea how screwed up marriage has become by the influences of faith and (government) violence?

      Deliberately involving the government in your marriage is tantamount to relationship suicide for a young man and woman today. And churches request you do nothing but damn yourself, spit in your own face, bow to a magical sky-being, and then pay them for this service; then apologize for living in sin, and for the total piece of shit your entire species is.

      You’ve got to be fucking kidding me.

      Your comment history on TDL is annoying and ridiculous. Get a clue.

  3. Aum February 28, 2014 at 11:04 pm #

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  4. Aum February 28, 2014 at 11:38 pm #

    “When I said “doing and publishing” I was referring to the intersection of philosophy and technology present at the wedding.”

    – I see.

    “There must be millions? I don’t see a single one”

    – I was talking about wedding videos.

    “and I spend every day on Youtube running one of the top 20k channels in the world”

    – Evidence? I did a random surf and Socrate’s lecture about “Things Your Father Never Taught You” or something or other got only 13,000-ish views while Fully Raw Kristina running a one woman operation and talking simply about eating raw foods regularly gets well over 100,000 views, sometimes as high as 700,000 and more. And keep in mind this is one woman talking about the same subject (raw food), over and over again, while your’s is a collaborative operation of many speakers covering a wide variety of subjects from exercise, nutrition, pick up, relationships, self-improvement and philosophy. Heck even the Yaron Brooks videos you’ve got posted didn’t net anything near the views FRK gets and he’s a pretty well known/moderately famous person in the national mainstream media, whereas Kristina is not.

    “I am left to wonder if you actually *listened* to anything Greg or I said during the ceremony.”

    – Oh I listened but I didn’t hear anything unique and certainly no concept I haven’t already heard before. I also heard Marilee speak for about a minute or two on how much she loved and adored you, praising your qualities, and I heard you speak much longer on ….. yourself.

    “You seem totally ignorant of the fact that Mary, Greg, and I just reinvented how a young, rational couple can and ought to be married in the 21st century.”

    – But you didn’t. That’s my point. You used traditional mainstream American Christian-influenced organ wedding music that can be heard all across the country on any given day. Your bride wore a traditionally mainstream American Christian-influenced white wedding dress. You exchanged traditional mainstream Christian-influenced wedding rings. You did the traditionally mainstream American wedding kiss. Heck, if my ears heard right Mary even took your last name and Greg referred to you as “Mr. And Mrs.”! What’s up with that? The list goes on.

    No reinventing the wedding wheel here, Sir. More of the same ‘ol, same ‘ol.

    “Are you fucking stupid?”

    – Well, my observations above are certainly not inaccurate?

    “Do you have any idea how screwed up marriage has become by the influences of faith and (government) violence?”

    – The vast majority of my family and friends have not had faith-based or government-based weddings. Nor have they had mainstream American style weddings or Christian-influenced weddings with big white dresses, rings and name changes. Several of them have been living together as exclusive couples for decades without ever even had any “wedding” at all. And some are in plural relationships/open relationships as well. Heck I even know some couples that are married – to each other. That’s right couples marrying other couples in an open bond.

    You are way behind the curve on this If I must say so myself, Anthony. There was nothing new or unique in your wedding and it looked more like a traditional, mainstream American and Christian-custom influenced wedding than not.

    “Deliberately involving the government in your marriage is tantamount to relationship suicide for a young man and woman today. And churches request you do nothing but damn yourself, spit in your own face, bow to a magical sky-being, and then pay them for this service; then apologize for living in sin, and for the total piece of shit your entire species is.”

    – By the looks of your wedding guests I can believe that you personally know several people swallowing that kool-aid, but I don’t.

    But my question is: why did you bother with a wedding at all? If you and your bride were already committed to each other in body and mind, why a ritual? If ritual is something you like or feel is important, then why not a private one just between the two of you?

    “You’ve got to be fucking kidding me.”

    – That’s what I thought when I saw your cliched wedding video – in Vegas of all places.

    “Your comment history on TDL is annoying and ridiculous. Get a clue.”

    – And yet it was me who had to clue you on the fact that social security numbers are not mandatory for new born infants, remember? You even thanked me for that info.

    Like I said above, you are really out of the loop on how people are coupling up and creating families these days. You two will probably even have your kids in a hospital, if your very mainstream but somehow “reinvented wedding” video is anything to go by.

    And because you asked and because I’m helpful, here’s the wedding video of former PUA guru David DeAngelo (real name Eben Pagan). If you want to hear two people who really thought out and co-crafted their open source wedding affirmations and life intentions as a couple, then put “Annie and Eben Wedding Vows” in the youtube search bar.

    Your welcome 🙂

    • Anthony Dream Johnson March 1, 2014 at 6:55 pm #

      http://socialblade.com/youtube/user/under21convention07

      Top 16,000 channels based on total subscribers. It will be 15k within 30 days of posting this. Views don’t matter; watch time is king, of which, the channel is off the charts. Many times over the average. Watch time reflects mindfulness. Crazy amounts of views on short videos reflect mindlessness.

      Your christian claims are absurd. You point to the music? It was picked in less than 10 seconds because neither of us gave it any importance. This indicates to me how much of a fucking imbecile you are. Were the flowers the wrong color as well? How about the carpet and the wall paper? Oh boy, they looked a little whateverthefuck to me.

      You criticize the wedding as American, but this is a compliment. Marriage as an act of romantic love has its roots entirely in America as an extension of the individualism that the country was founded upon.

      “You are way behind the curve on this If I must say so myself, Anthony.”

      You’re citing random bullshit with no limit and stating I am behind the curve. You point is built on the fallacy that concocting new and more complex ways to get married is better simply because its new. You’re like a little kid … new is always better. New new new.

      “But my question is: why did you bother with a wedding at all? If you and your bride were already committed to each other in body and mind, why a ritual? If ritual is something you like or feel is important, then why not a private one just between the two of you?”

      Our marriage was a ceremony that concretized and made clear our commitment to one another, to each of us, as well as our friends and family. In our relationship, it is now concrete and has an expression in physical reality in the form of rings. In a social sense it is also concrete; we now present ourselves as married to others (since we don’t live in a cave in the middle of no where).

      Re Eban Pagen, I was already aware of his wedding. I was unimpressed with 100% of it, right down to the proposal. That you would point to their vows — which I have nothing positive to say about — as a great example, is telling that you really, really don’t know what you are babbling about. Their vows are other-centric altruistic mystic crap with your standard dosing of clueless-self-help-guru junk philosophy in it.

    • Anthony Dream Johnson March 1, 2014 at 7:27 pm #

      That’s amusing that you criticized her dress.

      She made it, her shoes, and her veil by hand, and worked with a local tailor to finish and fit it properly. It took months of hard work. She also did the flowers completely herself. She also made a second dress herself, but it was unfortunately lost in the mail just before the wedding.

      How generic of her to craft every inch of her attire twice over by hand in 2013/14.

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