Unless it’s content directly from The 21 Convention, I don’t post much anymore about male/female relationships. The things I do post, and think about, are much higher level concepts.
Stuff like the psychological significance of accepted meta-physical and epistemological basic premises in the context of a heterosexual mature romantic love relationship between two individuals of relatively high self-esteem and of approximately equivalent general psychological maturity.
That shit makes sense to about .00001% of the human population because it requires not only a wide range and depth of knowledge, but also the capacity to make coherent sense of multiple, consecutive layers of abstractions … from abstractions … from abstractions … and so forth.
That said, I do have some personal thoughts about pickup in the common sense of the term, which for my purposes here, deals externally and only with
Meet ——> Sex ——> Establishment of a Sexual Relationship
Those thoughts can be effectively summarized in the phrase
Don’t chase, ever.
For the majority of the male human population living in a civilized — read feminized — society, who are psychologically mature enough (meaning you’ve probably chased a bunch of women previously) to begin meeting and having sex with new women on a consistent basis, this will be the brightest light bulb to ever go off in your head, in this arena of life.
I really mean it: this it the straw that will break the camel’s back.
If you fundamentally grasp this principle and apply it, it is the single closest thing to a magic bullet in existence for “picking up” women in the 21st century. It is so effective it will make your ears bleed.
And I am telling it to you for free.
What does this look like applied in real life?
It means you never, ever chase. Under no circumstances are you the pursuer. The woman is always chasing you. You do your best to setup the logistics of any given situation so she has the ability to chase, but regardless of how well that effort went, you DO NOT CHASE.
You never initiate calling, texting, Facebooking, e-mailing … any type of communication.
If you screwed up and she is not in a position to chase (like she doesn’t have your phone number), too bad, you screwed up, you walk away. Why?
Because the psychological experience of not chasing and instead experiencing a loss, as a consequence of poor logistical planning, is infinitely more important than that one girl you met and know next to nothing about.
This active behavior quickly creates a mental environment in which your default response to meeting a woman is to not chase. And when that process borders on automatic, you’ve got it … and, a bunch of attractive women chasing you so strongly, you are left in fucking disbelief.
All that marketing hype about this or that being “lethally effective”, is child’s play compared to this.
Now for the kicker. Rather than have this one little blog post about the topic, there is an entire Youtube channel dedicated to it. Those are the videos sorted by most popular first. They are more than enough to instill this change.
Speaking from personal experience, they worked for me. In fact that one change — the resolve to absolutely and completely refrain from chasing — “worked” so well, that I’ve had a really hot and incredible girlfriend for the past 8 months. And of course, that wasn’t the only result.
It is just the most recent, literally speaking.
Q and A
Is it really that effective?
Yes. Not chasing is absurdly effective for creating new sexual relationships with new women. I am convinced it is the “missing link” for nearly every male in western culture who has been seeking to improve his quality of life in this manner (a greater number of sexual relationships with attractive women, physically and otherwise).
Is it ethical?
Anyone telling you different — like I’m sure many women will, especially if they read this blog — are telling you that because the concept is terrifying to them. It is terrifying because it shifts so many fundamentals of male/female relationships back to where they should be, that the very possibility of that happening in one swoop, was radically incomprehensible to them in the first place.
It takes a very intelligent and mature person to understand this. This is especially true for women; because the concept affects them internally more than it does men, the result being that it is more difficult to deal with and process in abstract terms.
Beyond that, yes it is absolutely moral to decide the course of your own life and live on no ones judgement but your own. If you want to, for the length of time you choose, have sex with lots of new women, GO DO IT.
The idea that the most healthy and effective way to accomplish this — for both parties — is immoral or unethical, is a moral crime in itself.
What if I’m a guy who likes chasing women?
This is not only the weakest excuse, it is also the dumbest. This is similar to saying that you like breathing under-water. You don’t because it’s extremely bad for your health. Anyone who obtains a coherent understanding of not chasing, and continues to chase, would border very closely on what I call “aggressively stupid”.
Sure you can bash your head in a wall. The real mental health problem — forgive the pun — arrives when you keep doing it, after you realize it’s bad behavior.
But there’s this one girl …
If this is coming to mind you are failing to realize that having lots of high quality women in your life has next to nothing to do with women, and has everything to do with you.
It is about you, not the woman. YOUR long-term, rational, non-cannibalistic happiness is first and foremost in this world, and not a single other person’s or group’s.