The Relationship Talk Your Father Never Gave You was published today. Its publication brings to mind a number of things. One of which is the realization that Socrates has so much to say, even in the context of all the other incredible speakers at The 21 Convention, that I am literally at a loss of what to do with him as a speaker.
This is an amusing problem to have; one that brings a grin to my face. I suppose because I’ve simply never run into it before, and I never suspected I would. I’m thinking in the future I’ll have to figure out a way to double Sock’s speaking time, or have him present at multiple events, or SOMETHING. Maybe encourage him to write a book? Perhaps that’s the only medium that will have the capacity to capture the depth, scope, and complexity of his ideas in one epic sprint to glory.
In any case, the real point of this post is to explicitly and publicly thank Socrates for his ideas (and the indescribable quality of life improvement that has resulted from applying said ideas, and sense of life). I did this in person when we filmed Socrates The Documentary, and yet, a full year later, it feels more appropriate than ever to thank him once again.
I say “sense of life” because it is this aspect of Socrates in this context that may have had the biggest effect of all on me. And when I say “sense of life” in this context, I mean everything about Socrates as it relates to what he speaks about. The seriousness with which he approaches the topic, the courage to live it himself, the deep passion behind the presentation and communication of the ideas, his uncompromising and unyielding choice of words … everything all at once, at the same time.
Sock isn’t just a living expression of integrity, the speech(es) itself is, to the point they it nearly “overflows” with a commitment to and respect of, reality.
And so how has Socrates contributed to my quality of life? Simple : the only people living more responsible for the intimate relationship I am currently in, that has absolutely skyrocketed my quality of life and the joy I experience within it, are me, and my girlfriend.
No other third party on the planet is more responsible than Socrates for that relationship, and the joy it has brought us both.
As much as this says at face value, I think it speaks even greater volumes than it does at first glance. Greater because I have surrounded myself with some of the most intelligent men on the planet, on this domain of life, as well as others. I even had the opportunity to meet Nathaniel Branden, author of one of my all time favorite books, The Psychology of Romantic Love.
And yet, the efforts Socrates has made, as I’ve absorbed them, and applied them to my own life, rise above. They have been that important and crucial to my development, and the continued success of the relationship itself.
Indeed, Sock’s ideas are the relationship talk no one ever gave me.
Interesting side note, you can see my girlfriend interview me here about my speech in Australia, An Introduction to the Psychology of Romantic Love (the book as well as the subject). The interview came as a surprise — I did not expect her to interview me post presentation, due to the nature of the speech and how close it was to both of us. Boy was I wrong, and surprised : she insisted, was even determined to do the interview.
As the comments and video indicate, I look, and felt like hell. This is typical for me during and after The 21 Convention in spite of all the diet, training, and recovery in the world. T21C is owner-operated, and this is never more apparent than in the total biological stress toll on me; which is nothing short of *immense* leading up to, during, and post event.
I was an even bigger wreck post Austin. I think I experienced the first migraine in my life the day after the event, or whatever you call a 12 hour head ache from hell.