“A men’s conference would focus much less on women and much more on how to be a man.”
Genuinely loving women isn’t something you “do;” it’s something you ARE
In regards to quote number one, Rob hits the nail on the head, so hard, that he reveals the false choice presented in the original quote — that focusing on women is somehow opposed to or exclusive of “how to be a man” — a completely undefined phrase 99.999999% of the time that is just “supposed to” have some sort of meaning without any effort or thought given to the matter.
Like the word “good”. What is “good”? Ever thought about that? What about “evil”?
Anyway, in the (paraphrased) words of Nathaniel Branden, viewing women as the greatest of nature’s creations is central to life on earth as a man. It is central to being male.
The same is true in reverse: viewing man (males), as the greatest of nature’s creations is central to life on earth as a woman. It is central to being female.
These are thoughts I think echoed by Steve Mayeda as well.
In any case, learning about, and being interested in women, in all regards, is not only not at odds with becoming the man you were meant to be, your ideal self, but a necessary, and integral building block.
It is 100% natural, normal, and proper — and you should take no shame in it. The person who made the original comment, unfortunately, thinks this is somehow contradictory when it comes to “learning how to be a man”, leaving me to seriously doubt whether this guy has ever given serious thought to the meaning of that statement and what it implies.
— Anthony Dream Johnson