It’s common for people to proclaim that they don’t care what others think. Conventionally, it’s almost seen as a badge of confidence or honor.
I don’t care what other people think of me (or X). See? I’m cool!
In most cases I don’t think this is true though.
The person proclaiming this, to themselves, others, or both, is lying. They do care what others think on some level and to some degree. It would be the rare individual that truly doesn’t.
I’m not even sure that it’s healthy to completely detach yourself from that care.
To the contrary, and to be completely honest, I do care what other people think on important topics, and even, of me.
The difference between me and your average joe however is that I care about what I think *more* than every and any other person on earth.
And I don’t mean this figuratively or metaphorically, I mean it literally, and to the extent that most people would consider it “monstrous”, “narcissistic”, or any number of other derogatory terms regurgitated out of the blue.
I really do care what I think more than what you think, the next guy, and the next 6.999999 billion people.
And I think this is the only real way to achieve the net effect of “not caring what other people think”. You stop trying to achieve that, and you turn your attention to your own judgement, and the value it has in your life.
It’s supreme value, above all others, in all respects, to the highest degree possible.
So sure I care about what other people think.
The difference is, I always care about my judgments ****more**** than yours, or any sum of people for that matter.
This is what it means to truly “stand on your own judgement”.
To the point that it so utterly and obviously absolute, that it terrifies observers who stand on the judgement, and the minds of others.
I stand on my own, completely and absolutely. My judgement, my thoughts, are supreme in the total course of my life.
I recommend you do the same.