As I type this I’m at my girlfriend’s house. Simple as that fact may be, I’m almost speechless, because it is the ultimate testimony to the efficacy of Sock’s speech (link) on interpersonal relationships, and it is a profoundly personal one.
I briefly showed this speech to my girlfriend, and I don’t even think she believes me — that if it were not for this speech, I would not be dating her right now. It really was that pivotal.
But was it the primary cause?
No, the prime mover for manifesting the relationship, qua my own life, was me. This does not undermine the fact however, that the single biggest key to unlocking what I had already built in my own character, was this speech, it’s speaker, and his ideas.
His psychology pertaining to committed, long term, intimate relationships.
I know this may come as a shock to many of you, and I would like to verify by reviewing his work before stating this more concretely, but this speech is tantamount to what David Deida could have been and could have written in The Way of the Superior Man.
The ideas presented in this speech are the conclusions man comes to when he applies reason to his relationships — nothing being above reason, including all forms of human relationships. The specifics may differ from individual to individual, but the fundamentals are present and by my judgement, accurately identified in this speech to a wide range and even greater depth.
This presentation is in essence, what Nathaniel Branden would be delivering if he were still in his prime — author of The Psychology of Romantic Love.
Taking a small step back, this speech, that I watched many times over as soon as I received a rough copy, has quite literally, changed my life. The physical location at which I am publishing this post adds a tremendous amount of weight to this — and the urgency at which you need to watch this speech if the concept “intimate relationship” is of even the slightest interest to you.
— Anthony Dream Johnson