When I released my recent post “The Real Secret to Picking up Women“, a number of people commented on the gender specific assertion I was making: that men should never chase, and women should always do all of the chasing.
I didn’t elaborate further, nor is this something that anyone could expect to be widely understood. Heck, I’m not even sure Brenth Smith understands why women should chase. And I stress the word “should” there because I mean that in the best and highest, all encompassing, sweeping statement sense.
As in, women chasing men is a matter of psychological health, not arbitrary whim/chance, or even choice. [You have about as much choice in the matter as you do in breathing.]
So why is this?
- Why must women chase men?
- Why can it be no other way?
- Can men not “like” chasing?
- Can women not “hate” chasing?
It is because nature to be commanded is to be obeyed, and the fundamental nature, the essence of femininity, is to look up to man. To revere and admire him, in the flesh of an individual man, and in conceptual form.
While there is enormous room for admiration of women in masculinity, in flesh and concept, looking up to women is not central to being a man. It is not it’s essence. It is explicitly not it’s fundamental nature.
Perhaps not surprisingly, the essence of being a man is actually the ideal compliment to the essence of being a woman: and that fundamental nature, is purpose.
To walk a straight line through life and through existence. To not waiver, not bend, not stray, and to pursue his vision of what could exist and should exist in this world by his judgement.
Chasing a woman is antithetical to this process and to this essence. There is no point and no degree in which it is appropriate.
Let me be clear here: as a man, chasing a woman is the single most aggressively unattractive action you can take, short of physical harm.
There is nothing more unattractive you can do.
- Women do not like it.
- They typically do not understand why.
- They will tell you the opposite.
Make no mistake, they are either confused (consciously, subconsciously, or both), have an underdeveloped sexual identity, or have a damaged sexual psychology.
I.e. they have actively and knowingly rejected what it is to be a woman. (This would be most modern, third wave collectivists-feminists).
Many people who read this post will be angered by it and will quickly reduce normal, necessary male/female behavior to what their personal definition of chasing is — which at this stage, is largely not a consequence of their own independent thought, but is instead intellectual garbage they have been fed since birth by news, entertainment, and a morally bankrupt culture at large.
In short, “chasing” is a jumbled, undefinable mix of conflicting ideas, that is now being associated with normal, socially intelligent behavior. You may be doing this because you’ve chased women your entire life and are afraid to admit it.
Well, stop it.
A word that can mean anything means nothing. Chasing does not mean anything. It means very specific actions that run in direct opposition to being a man (or inversely, actions that are highly feminine). YOU need to determine what these actions and psychological positions are in your own life. Stop jumping to conclusions and vomiting out the same old re-hashed garbage the world has fed you.
- You do not have to chase.
- Men should not chase.
- Women should chase.
You make the choice, same as what foods you put into your body.
Here’s a woman who understands these concepts quite well, contrary to what you may believe her novels depict (which in all cases, generally do not reflect daily life and instead depict heroic characters in unique circumstances).